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In yesterday’s blog I mentioned guilt. So today let’s talk about regret.
Let’s start by defining the word regret:
transitive verb 1 a : to mourn the loss or death of b : to miss very much
2 : to be very sorry for s his mistakes>intransitive verb : to experience regret
— re·gret·ter noun
To me regret is always a bad thing. I think about regret from the perspective of the Space Time Continuum. As it was presented in Back To The Future. The basic concept of the Space Time Continuum is that all events in life lead to other events in life. If one event in the past is changed for any reason, it could effect all future outcomes. In the movie if Marty McFly’s parents didn’t go to The Enchantment Under The Sea dance and kiss, they wouldn’t get married and therefore Marty wouldn’t be born. All events that would happen because of the kiss.
I’ve been asked numerous times throughout my lifetime if I regret certain things. The answer is always No.
Do I regret getting married? Nope. If I hadn’t gotten married I wouldn’t have moved to Upstate NY to hideout from my ex, and therefore I wouldn’t know the many great friends I have today.
Do I regret quitting my job to travel Europe? HELL No! First off how many people at 24 can say they’ve been to 10 different countries? Second off, if I hadn’t done that I probably wouldn’t have ended up moving to Pittsburgh after and wouldn’t know all my wonderful friends down there. I haven’t kept in touch with many of them, but the few that I do are precious to me. I count one of them as one of my closest friends!
Do I regret dating _______? (insert any name of one of my ex boyfriends) Nope. They’re all ex boyfriends for a reason. I learned something from every single one of them. Even the bad stuff was good to go through to learn from. The jerk that beat the crap out of me made me a stronger woman who would NEVER tolerate that crap in my life. The jerk with the head on a swivel – I learned that I was so much better than him. (He’s now married and I pity his wife) I’ve learned that some men just can’t get out of their own way to be happy. Then there was the good stuff. The guy who taught me to make kick-ass pizza. The guy who loved to watch movies that opened me up to some I would have never picked up to watch. The guy who loved to travel. The guys who loved riding motorcycles. I learned from them all 🙂
Do I regret taking that last job that totally screwed me over? I’m still trying to learn from that one…. I’ve learned to be more frugal, that’s for sure….
So I ask you all this. What do people think you’d regret in your life and why don’t you regret it?
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I don’t see these things as regrets. I would consider them more as lessons to learn from going forward. Everything happens for a reason, and we’ve made some great friends through almost everything in life, good or bad.
As for your exes, you’ve dated some pretty cool guys. Some of them , I really enjoy hanging out with. The best part is that even though it didn’t work out, you found a bunch of good friends.
I agree, I’ve made some awesome friends through the years 🙂
I have no regrets. I mean there are things I perhaps wish I hadn’t done, but I wouldn’t change them because I’m where I am now because of it…and where I am now isn’t all that bad.
There are a few people I wish I hadn’t hurt, but I won’t hurt others because of what happened there so I guess you could say that’s a lesson learned.
But I have no regrets about money spent, guys I’ve dated/slept with, classes skipped, grades earned in college, jobs I’ve taken/turned down etc.
Good for you Sweetie!! Though you do make me think, sometimes I do wish I hadn’t spent the money on certain things…. LOL! Oh well….
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