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[tweetmeme] I have friends that send me all kinds of messages like this.  This one has many good lessons to remember.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend.
Mental Feng Shui

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.

FIVE. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! . . . When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. . When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY ONE. Spend some time alone.

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart

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Throughout my life I rarely tend to dream, or at least I don’t tend to remember them.  I do tend to remember a few recurring dreams through the years though.

One that I do recall is that I’d be in my parent’s back yard running around, playing on my swing-set, that sort of thing.  All of a sudden there would be a snake in the grass that I’d trip over, and as soon as I realized that it was a snake that tripped me I’d jump up and start running.  My coherent self would think that I’d run into the house to my Mother, but instead, in my dreams I’d run half way across the back-yard, and up onto the wings of a wing-back chair that was placed in the middle of the yard next to a pine tree that was there.  Then the snake would chase me and slither up the leg of the chair and as soon as it got close enough I’d wake up.  But whenever I’d wake from this dream I’d feel paralyzed.  Eventually I’d choke (because I think I’d stop breathing) and then I’d be able to move again.

This dream freaked me out time after time.

Recently at a yard sale (tag sale, garage sale, flea market – whatever you want to call it) I picked up a book called Dreams: More than 350 Symbols and Interpretations.  According to this book this is what the dream means:


SNAKE
The snake is a difficult dream symbol because it is so widely interpreted among various cultures.  Interpretations run the gamut from blood-curdling fear to wisdom and peace.  These options are determined by literary history and folklore from different cultures, as well as personal experience.

In waking life, it is not uncommon to be afraid of snakes.  For some people, this fear is disruptive and pathological, even to the point that a photo of a snake represents an oppressive threat.  For these people, snake dreams are almost universally bad.  If the dream includes someone who handles snakes, whoever tames the object of the fear is likely a source of wisdom and control in the dreamer’s world, and may be a representation of some aspect of themselves or someone else they know.

Among Asian and Native American cultures, the snake is a wisdom symbol.  The idea of wisdom comes from the snake’s ability to shed its skin and renew itself.  If one dreams of snakes from this perspective it is a dream of renewal, problem-solving, and good tidings in general.

I do vaguely recall at least sometimes when I had that dream, sitting on the back of the chair and watching the snake sit in the seat of the chair shedding its skin.

In Judeo-Christian cultures, the snake is a symbol of temptation or spiritual opposition against reaching one’s goals.  This concept is derived from Bible when Satan tempts Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden in the form of a snake.  Sometimes, a snake dreamt in this context will remind you of a person in your waking life with whom you have a competitive relationship.

I’ve always been fairly competitive when it comes to certain things, so this is a strong possibility.

Finally, Freud and classical psychotherapy have also thrown interpretations into this “pit.”  The contention is that the snake is a type of phallus.  The snake often embodies fear about intercourse and an aversion to it.

Coming up with an insightful interpretation for your dream snake could be tricky.  What emotions are prevalent regarding the snake: fear, respect, or opposition?

Fear

What is your attitude about snakes in waking life: neutral, fearful, or friendly?

Out of those 3 words I’d say fearful, but it’s really more cautious….

Did the snake appear when you were alone or were others with you when the snake entered the dream scene?  What are your feelings about those others?

I was always alone.

Answering these questions should lead towards a productive interpretation of the snake dream.

PARALYSIS
One of the most troubling dream events, and startling physical side-effects of REM, is paralysis.  Large muscle groups often become paralyzed during a dream, presumably to prevent injury to the dreamer in case the dreamer’s instincts would cause a physical reaction to dreaming visuals.  It can be troubling if the dreamer becomes aware of his body in a paralyzed state without being aware of the fact that the mind is still in a dream state.  Suddenly stripped of every physical capacity for defense, the dreamer can experience great panic or victimization in the dream.  This scenario is a troubling version of the lucid dream.  Instead of mind awareness and body control, the dreamer has body awareness and no mind control.

Hundreds of years ago, this phenomenon was observed and named “having a witch on your back.”  The idea was that an unfriendly spirit within the dream had pinned you to your bed.  Indeed, it is not uncommon to have a sense of spiritual oppression in a dream that includes paralysis.

I don’t know if I’m panicked in the dream, but I’m sure I’m panicked when I wake up (or think I’m awake) and don’t feel like I can move….

What strange dreams have you had?
Have you ever tried to figure out what they mean?

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Meet Lisa Bathrick Miller

While brainstorming about what to write blogs about, I wanted to find a way for my readers to get to know some of the awesome people who I know.  The best way I could come up with was an interview series.

This week’s interviews all have a military connection.  Meet my friend LisaLisa and I grew up together in Red Hook, NYLisa is an army wife.  She was a wonderful friend to help out my friend Sara Caraway Kowalski when she moved to TX and needed a friend.  You’ll be able to learn more about Sara in tomorrow’s blog.

Name: Lisa Bathrick Miller

Blog link:
http://miliwifeaviation.wordpress.com

Age: 31…yeah getting old!

Location: Currently Ft. Hood, TX

Lisa & Joe ~ September 20, 2008

Relationship Status: Married since September 20, 2008

Kaleb, Bailey, and Trevor

Children: I have 3. Trevor is 11, Kaleb is 7, and Bailey is soon to be 5.

Occupation: I’m a mom, wife, and everything in between

What is the most challenging part of your job?
Making time for me.

Joe & Lisa

What is the best part of being a military spouse? Being able to live in different places.  Kids get to experience different things. It can be a tough life, but I wouldn’t change it!

How many times has your husband been deployed?
Since he has been in the Army, he has deployed 3 times. Together we have gone through one.

How do you handle it when he’s gone? You have good days. You have bad days. Then you have down right horrible days. I lived on my computer waiting for him to get online. If I had to go out, I would always have my phone on me. Friends are always helpful, especially if they are going through the same thing. Oh and alcohol is always good company for misery. LOL

What advice do you have for a new military spouse? One thing a newbie might have problems with is dealing with being alone…ALOT. They tend to expect their soldier home at 5pm. Well it doesn’t always work that way. There are days my husband goes to work at 7am and doesn’t come home til 8pm.  Some new wives (and even some not so new) will get so mad at their husbands. They have to realize it is not their fault! They have to be able to adapt, be flexible, and be understanding. Oh yeah…  and please don’t be one of those wives that runs to the commander every time you get mad at something.  It’s embarrassing to your soldier, and makes life hell for him.

Lisa

What got you interested in blogging? Boredom I suppose. I just wish I had interesting things to write about.

(except for the deer)

We grew up in a small town in New York State. How different is it living in Texas? Well its HOT during the summer! And summer is about 9 months out of the year. The interstates and highways are way weird here!  They talk weird. Although I am the one always getting accused of that. Real estate is so much cheaper.  BUGS…big ones at that! We have bigger deer in NY though. The trees here are different. I miss the trees back home. Thats just a few things…

Lisa, Keleb & Trevor at Monster Jam!

I know your ex-husband lives in another state. How difficult is it to coordinate visits for your children?
They go for a month in the summer. They are old enough to fly by themselves so it isn’t too bad. My step daughter will be turning 5 next month, so she will be able to fly by herself as well.

Heaven on Earth

When you lived here in New York you used to work at Holy Cow which is many opinions is the best ice cream there is.  Does all other ice cream taste like fluff to you?
There is nothing that tastes as good as Holy Cow ice cream.  Still to this day, my hubby and I can be sitting on the couch and out of no where I will say “God, how I could go for a hot fudge sundae from the Holy Cow!” Maybe next time you are in Red Hook you could send some my way? And yes I am going to be picky…send CHOCOLATE!  {HOLY COW – HEAVEN IN RED HOOK}

We’ve known each other since elementary school.  Do you have any funny or thoughtful memories of us?

One time your mom took us to her friend’s house so we could go swimming. We were in the pool for what seemed like forever, but I don’t think your hair ever got wet. LOL

What are you favorite TV shows on right now? I like Chuck. I can’t wait for Amazing Race to start again. And I am a total HGTV and Food Network junkie! House Hunters and Chopped are a couple of my favorites.

You lived at Ft. Hood during the shootings here earlier this year. What was it like that day?  What were you doing when you heard about it?  How have things there changed since then??
That day was actually supposed to be pretty special for me. It was my 31st Birthday, and since my husband and I have been together it was the first birthday of mine that we were actually going to be together! I was super excited even though we didn’t have anything huge planned. The only thing I wanted for my birthday was to spend it with my husband.  Well, that didn’t happen!

The kids had half day of school that day.  I had just picked up my little one from the school across the street. We were sitting in the livingroom, looking at their papers from their backpacks. My friend either text me or called me, I can’t remember which one. She was the one to tell me what was going on. Funny thing is, I live just about a mile from where it was all going on, and I had no clue.

I turned on the tv right away. As she was getting info from a friend on post, she was relaying it to me. My husband was in a training center much farther away from where the shooting took place. He didn’t know about it till a little later. What was frustrating was there was so much talk going on about there being 2 or 3 shooters.  Some were on the loose on post, supposedly near my house. They told everyone to lock all their windows and doors and close all their blinds. Sirens were going off telling you to stay in your house. It was scary! So many stories were swirling around. Later to find out most of them were not true.

Post was on lock down. Some kids in schools that let out a little later were stuck there. Soldiers couldn’t leave to go home. People who lived on post or had kids in schools on post couldn’t even get on Fort Hood. It was a long afternoon that turned into a long night!

My husband finally got to come home around 8pm. Needless to say, I wasn’t in a very Birthday mood! I was very upset! Same question everyone had…how and why could this have happened? Very frustrating that one of our own could do this. Still makes me very angry.

Lisa's Family

Lisa on a weekend getaway in Fredericksburg, TX

Lisa & Joe in Fredericksburg, TX

Joe & Lisa at a winery in Fredericksburg, TX

Do you have any questions for Lisa??

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