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This was originally posted on my friend Lynn Hidy’s website Up Your TeleSales on May 31, 2010.

Who Will You Be When The Pilgrimage Is Over?

Rose Niekrewicz-Winters is a friend of mine, I met when we were both on a bus trip with a band in Ireland…. ‘nuf said. Instead of telling you, I’ve asked Rose to share her pilgrimage and thoughts about it:

It’s been quite a long pilgrimage.  I’ve traveled through the past year and a half searching for a job.  Not just any job, but “the” job.  I know, I know – in this economy many would say I’m a fool to NOT just take any job.  What those people don’t realize is that if I just take any old job and then if it doesn’t work out and they lay me off, it could jeopardize my future unemployment status.  The bottom line is that I’m picky.

Who

Some may say it’s all about who you know.  I’ve found that sometimes that just doesn’t matter.  I have over 600 friends on Facebook, over 200 members in the motorcycle club, I’m in, thousands of hits to my blog, piles of former clients….  The list goes on and on.  Nobody seems to know anyone who is hiring.  I keep my ear to the ground because all it takes is 1 “right person” to drop your name at the right time.

Who I will be at the end of the journey is hopefully someone gainfully employed and happy at my job.  Push that angle aside and I’ll also be a person who took the time to get to know hundreds of people in the process and did good things for others along the way.

What

What did I do to keep my sanity?  I helped others.  I spent time working on a charity poker run for a girl with optic nerve cancer.  I helped some friends whose house burned down rebuild their lives.  I volunteered to help do work to open up the Double H “Hole in the Woods” Ranch in Lake Luzerne, NY.  I helped out a friend who was in a motorcycle accident. I supported a friend whose daughter has leukemia and tried to help her spread the word about a fundraiser for her.  I tell friends that I may have an empty bank account and can’t financially contribute to everything I’d like, but I do have time and a bank full of good karma!

When

When did I find the time?  Being out of work many people assume you’ve got all the time in the world to run around and help them with their errands.  There is nothing further from the truth.  I look at my schedule lately and wonder “when will I find the time to work when I get that new job?”  When you get extra time in your life, life decides to throw things at you to fill the time!

Where

Where do you meet the people?  Anywhere and Everywhere!  I talk to people every chance I get.  I make friends at a local coffee shop, on vacation, at concerts, at networking events, online, through other friends….  I keep saying it only takes talking to the one right person to land that perfect job….

How

How I’ve dealt with being out of work so long is a common question.  The answer is by keeping a positive attitude.  I always keep in mind that nobody wants to hire a complainer who’s crying in their beer all the time.  So I’ve been careful not to be that person. At the end of the How Far Are You Willing to Travel article in the A Chip Off the Block newsletter some questions were asked.

How would you like it to be instead?

Obviously I’d like to be employed.  I’d love it to be with a solid company that’s willing to recognize and pay for a quality employee.  Those $10/hour job calls just frustrate me to the point of asking “Did you even read my resume??”

How open to new, sometimes crazy sounding ideas are you?

I started my job search very focused on a sales job.  Later I reflected on my career and realized I was selling myself short.  True I’ve held many sales positions as of late, but I also have done marketing, data processing, management, etc.  So pigeon holing myself was a horrible thing to do!  I later realized that opening myself up to other markets and other professions was a great idea and now I tell people that I’m keeping my options open and I’d love to hear their ideas, no matter how crazy they may sound.

Just last night a good friend told me that another mutual friend counts on me for my ideas.  Apparently I’m her “think tank” and I never knew it.  I’m analytical and try to think three steps ahead and my friend doesn’t normally think past the first step.  She let’s things unfold as they happen.  I’ve learned in life to think about the future because your actions today can make or break things.

How much effort will you put in?

I work hard so I can play hard.  Everyone likes to make money.  They’d be lying if they said otherwise.  I like to do a job in the most efficient way and get it out of the way.  I put in the effort to get a job done right the first time so it doesn’t have to be revised 4 times therefore wasting valuable “play time.”

How does this fit into your goals?

This all fits into my goals.  My goals are to work hard so I can afford to play hard.  I love to travel (in fact that’s how Lynn of Up Your Telesales and I met and became friends), ride motorcycles, attend concerts, etc.  All of that is tough to do when you’re unemployed.  So I’m hoping my positive attitude and outgoing personality I’m putting out there will pay off with the job of my dreams!

How will you keep going when it gets tough?

That’s a loaded question if I ever saw one!  Things have gotten tough.  Life is tough.  The question is will you choose to have a “Whoa is me” attitude or a positive attitude?  Attitude is half the battle!  Times get tough and somehow it motivates me to work harder and put in even more effort than I had prior.

In closing the How Far Are You Willing To Travel article said:  “It’s your pilgrimage so there are no right or wrong answers – plus if you’re happy with the path you’re on, continue!”

I may not always be happy with the path I’m on, but I’m always aware of the next crossroad and am very aware that my life can be very different based on the choices I make.  All events shape the outcome of future events.  Just like Marty and Doc discussed in Back to the Future It’s all about the “Space Time Continuum”. Make every moment count.

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The Weekly Re-cap: We talked about free days to visit national parks this summer.  I showed you adorable videos of Isabella’s 1st time in the pool.  I passed along some household tips and tricks and we talked about personal strengths.  We grooved along to tellingdad.com‘s Say the Things song about how much us blogger-folk love comments.  I asked what inspires you and needed help captioning a funny photo….

The Weekly Movie: I’ve been watching the Back to the Future movies.  They never get old.  (See my How Does The Space Time Continuum Effect You blog)

The Weekly Downer: It rained much of the week up in Lake George, NY and soaked Americade.  😦

The Weekly Beverage: Bartles & Jaymes pomegranate raspberry wine coolers and Spag’s famous Bloody Marys 🙂

The Weekly Food: We had fresh fruit with our friends Angela & Phil earlier in the week.  Yesterday while we were visiting Old Forge, NY we stopped at Slicker’s Tavern and had spicy peel-and-eat shrimp and a yummy French Dip sandwich.  I wish I’d have taken pictures!!!

The Weekly Amazing Fact: “Almost” is the longest word in the English language with all the letters in alphabetical order.

The Weekly Birthdays: Emily Romanchak, Kelly Gardner, Stacy Lynn, Chrissy Mason LaCato, Jessica VanTassel, Kevin Crouth, Natalie Falk, Joni Choi, Aaron Greene (30), and Christine Bard Cole.  I hope you all had wonderful birthday celebrations!  Leave a comment and tell me what you did for your special day.

The Weekly Activity: Motorcycle riding with Michael and our friends.  We rode to Old Forge, NY.

Harley Davidson ~ Faded Glory

The Weekly Shoes: Harley Davidson Faded Glory Motorcycle Boots.

The Weekly new people I’ve found on Twitter: Telling Dad, Jaime-Ann Laidlaw, Kim Komando, and The Daily Puppy.

The Weekly Charity I’m Pimping: Sweet Dreams Fund that Telling Dad started.  With your support children who arrive at domestic violence shelters to escape abuse, will be greeted with their own pillow, pillowcase, coloring book, box of crayons and a teddy bear.  If you would like to read about what inspired Greg to start this fund you can read here.

Weekly Grand Totals: Miles on the Bike: 400ish….

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In yesterday’s blog I mentioned guilt.  So today let’s talk about regret.
Let’s start by defining the word regret:

Regret
Pronunciation: \ri-ˈgret\  Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): re·gret·ted; re·gret·ting
Etymology: Middle English regretten, from Anglo-French regreter, from re- + -greter (perhaps of Germanic origin; akin to Old Norse grāta to weep) 
Date: 14th century
transitive verb
1 a : to mourn the loss or death of b : to miss very much
2
: to be very sorry for s his mistakes>intransitive verb : to experience regret
re·gret·ter noun

To me regret is always a bad thing.  I think about regret from the perspective of the Space Time Continuum.  As it was presented in Back To The Future.  The basic concept of the Space Time Continuum is that all events in life lead to other events in life.  If one event in the past is changed for any reason, it could effect all future outcomes.  In the movie if Marty McFly’s parents didn’t go to The Enchantment Under The Sea dance and kiss, they wouldn’t get married and therefore Marty wouldn’t be born.  All events that would happen because of the kiss.

I’ve been asked numerous times throughout my lifetime if I regret certain things.  The answer is always No.

Do I regret getting married? Nope.  If I hadn’t gotten married I wouldn’t have moved to Upstate NY to hideout from my ex, and therefore I wouldn’t know the many great friends I have today.

Do I regret quitting my job to travel Europe? HELL No!  First off how many people at 24 can say they’ve been to 10 different countries?  Second off, if I hadn’t done that I probably wouldn’t have ended up moving to Pittsburgh after and wouldn’t know all my wonderful friends down there.  I haven’t kept in touch with many of them, but the few that I do are precious to me.  I count one of them as one of my closest friends!

Do I regret dating _______? (insert any name of one of my ex boyfriends) Nope.  They’re all ex boyfriends for a reason.  I learned something from every single one of them.  Even the bad stuff was good to go through to learn from.  The jerk that beat the crap out of me made me a stronger woman who would NEVER tolerate that crap in my life.  The jerk with the head on a swivel – I learned that I was so much better than him.  (He’s now married and I pity his wife)  I’ve learned that some men just can’t get out of their own way to be happy.  Then there was the good stuff.  The guy who taught me to make kick-ass pizza.  The guy who loved to watch movies that opened me up to some I would have never picked up to watch.  The guy who loved to travel.  The guys who loved riding motorcycles.  I learned from them all 🙂

Do I regret taking that last job that totally screwed me over? I’m still trying to learn from that one….  I’ve learned to be more frugal, that’s for sure….

So I ask you all this.  What do people think you’d regret in your life and why don’t you regret it?

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