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Teen’s father calls incident ‘regrettable’

Update: Parent of teen in prank controversy speaks

UPDATED: Homeowner charged in apparent doorbell ditch incident

Ridiculous charges against Delmar homeowner

Lawyer: Bethlehem man “terrified” before tackling teen

All the above news stories and blogs have been online.  I’m sure there are more but these are the ones I’ve found so far.  Twitter is going crazy talking about this story.

The basic gist of the story is – 4 local teenage boys who were having a sleepover decided to play “ding dong ditch.”  In this instance the front doorbell was rang while someone pounded on the back door.  The homeowner saw shadows through his windows and decided to disarm his home alarm system and run out his door and attack one of the kids.  The stories say that he attacked the kid off of his property and then hauled him inside his house while he called the police.  In the man’s interview he claims that he was terrified for his family.

Here’s my take on this whole thing.

  • The kids should be punished by their parents.
  • They are guilty of ringing a doorbell and banging on a door.  (Not illegal last I checked)

People keep calling these kids “intruders.”

Main Entry: in·trude Pronunciation: \in-ˈtrüd\ Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): in·trud·ed; in·trud·ing
Etymology: Middle English, from Latin intrudere to thrust in, from in- + trudere to thrust — more at threat
Date: 15th century

intransitive verb 1 : to thrust oneself in without invitation, permission, or welcome
2
: to enter as a geological intrusiontransitive verb

1 : to thrust or force in or upon someone or something especially without permission, welcome, or fitness <intruded himself into their lives>

2 : to cause to enter as if by force

in·trud·er noun

  • I would love to know what is technical trespassing.  Does the law state that no trespassing signs need to be posted in order to press trespassing charges?  I agree the kids were trespassing.
  • These kids were NOT intruders.  From all the accounts that I’ve read these kids did not vandalize anything and made NO attempt to enter the house.
  • MY BIGGEST ISSUE – The homeowner states during his interviews that he was “terrified” for his family.  This guys does not know TERROR!  If he did he wouldn’t have ever disarmed his alarm system (as the news said he did) and opened a door.  He would have kept the alarm armed and called the police.  He opened the door and chased the kid while in his underwear.  I wonder if he locked the door behind him??  If he DIDN’T he just put his family in danger because the other 3 kids could have entered and harmed his family if that was the true intention which I don’t believe for a minute was the intention of these boys.  True terror doesn’t run towards the threat.
  • After tackling the kid, the homeowner hauled him into his house and told him he’d kill him if he said one word while he called the police.  IMHO – this is kidnapping.  At that point the homeowner had to know it was a kid in front of him.  Bringing him inside the house against his will shouldn’t have happened.  Go to the door, yell to your wife to call 911, that would have made this situation a little better.  Then the homeowner threatened the kid with death.

At the end of the day, the kids pulled a prank.  The kid who was caught was mouthy.  Kids will be kids.  Ground them, and punish them severely.  (Don’t go on a bad parenting tangent – none of us know how these kids will be punished)  The homeowner needs to be accountable for his actions.  He’s an adult.  He injured a child.  He intentionally threatened the child.  He should have called 911 and let the police handle the situation.

Another thought to ponder – Hypothetically, if the kid didn’t get tackled, but got picked up by the police, then released and went home.  If his parents hit him as punishment, everyone would be crying child abuse right now.  Remember that.

This kid had poor judgment.  That still doesn’t excuse the fact that the homeowner who is an adult made extremely poor choices given the circumstances.

**These are my opinions – I am VERY aware that most people have differing opinions.  I’m not writing this to start a big debate or an argument.  I am writing this to put a differing point of view out there for people to consider.  Because of this, this blog is closed to comments**

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Throughout my life I rarely tend to dream, or at least I don’t tend to remember them.  I do tend to remember a few recurring dreams through the years though.

One that I do recall is that I’d be in my parent’s back yard running around, playing on my swing-set, that sort of thing.  All of a sudden there would be a snake in the grass that I’d trip over, and as soon as I realized that it was a snake that tripped me I’d jump up and start running.  My coherent self would think that I’d run into the house to my Mother, but instead, in my dreams I’d run half way across the back-yard, and up onto the wings of a wing-back chair that was placed in the middle of the yard next to a pine tree that was there.  Then the snake would chase me and slither up the leg of the chair and as soon as it got close enough I’d wake up.  But whenever I’d wake from this dream I’d feel paralyzed.  Eventually I’d choke (because I think I’d stop breathing) and then I’d be able to move again.

This dream freaked me out time after time.

Recently at a yard sale (tag sale, garage sale, flea market – whatever you want to call it) I picked up a book called Dreams: More than 350 Symbols and Interpretations.  According to this book this is what the dream means:


SNAKE
The snake is a difficult dream symbol because it is so widely interpreted among various cultures.  Interpretations run the gamut from blood-curdling fear to wisdom and peace.  These options are determined by literary history and folklore from different cultures, as well as personal experience.

In waking life, it is not uncommon to be afraid of snakes.  For some people, this fear is disruptive and pathological, even to the point that a photo of a snake represents an oppressive threat.  For these people, snake dreams are almost universally bad.  If the dream includes someone who handles snakes, whoever tames the object of the fear is likely a source of wisdom and control in the dreamer’s world, and may be a representation of some aspect of themselves or someone else they know.

Among Asian and Native American cultures, the snake is a wisdom symbol.  The idea of wisdom comes from the snake’s ability to shed its skin and renew itself.  If one dreams of snakes from this perspective it is a dream of renewal, problem-solving, and good tidings in general.

I do vaguely recall at least sometimes when I had that dream, sitting on the back of the chair and watching the snake sit in the seat of the chair shedding its skin.

In Judeo-Christian cultures, the snake is a symbol of temptation or spiritual opposition against reaching one’s goals.  This concept is derived from Bible when Satan tempts Adam and Eve in the Garden of Eden in the form of a snake.  Sometimes, a snake dreamt in this context will remind you of a person in your waking life with whom you have a competitive relationship.

I’ve always been fairly competitive when it comes to certain things, so this is a strong possibility.

Finally, Freud and classical psychotherapy have also thrown interpretations into this “pit.”  The contention is that the snake is a type of phallus.  The snake often embodies fear about intercourse and an aversion to it.

Coming up with an insightful interpretation for your dream snake could be tricky.  What emotions are prevalent regarding the snake: fear, respect, or opposition?

Fear

What is your attitude about snakes in waking life: neutral, fearful, or friendly?

Out of those 3 words I’d say fearful, but it’s really more cautious….

Did the snake appear when you were alone or were others with you when the snake entered the dream scene?  What are your feelings about those others?

I was always alone.

Answering these questions should lead towards a productive interpretation of the snake dream.

PARALYSIS
One of the most troubling dream events, and startling physical side-effects of REM, is paralysis.  Large muscle groups often become paralyzed during a dream, presumably to prevent injury to the dreamer in case the dreamer’s instincts would cause a physical reaction to dreaming visuals.  It can be troubling if the dreamer becomes aware of his body in a paralyzed state without being aware of the fact that the mind is still in a dream state.  Suddenly stripped of every physical capacity for defense, the dreamer can experience great panic or victimization in the dream.  This scenario is a troubling version of the lucid dream.  Instead of mind awareness and body control, the dreamer has body awareness and no mind control.

Hundreds of years ago, this phenomenon was observed and named “having a witch on your back.”  The idea was that an unfriendly spirit within the dream had pinned you to your bed.  Indeed, it is not uncommon to have a sense of spiritual oppression in a dream that includes paralysis.

I don’t know if I’m panicked in the dream, but I’m sure I’m panicked when I wake up (or think I’m awake) and don’t feel like I can move….

What strange dreams have you had?
Have you ever tried to figure out what they mean?

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Brianna

Brianna is my friend Danielle’s 12 year old daughter.  She has Acute Lymphoblastic Leukemia.  She’s been fighting for her life every day for the last year and has another 2 years of chemotherapy ahead of her.

So – I know many of my readers and LURKERS live in the Albany vicinity.  Get off your butts and come out and have a good time for a great cause at Envy Lounge.   There will be friends, food, music, raffles, great photos from a local photographer and a step team stepping for Brianna!!  It’s $10 at the door and all the proceeds go directly to the Howard family.  Check out the event page on Facebook.  And if you want to buy Chase for a Cure T-shirts you can get them here.

Brianna at the Bowling with Bieber event.

I hope to see you all there!!

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