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[tweetmeme] I have friends that send me all kinds of messages like this.  This one has many good lessons to remember.
I hope everyone is having a wonderful weekend.
Mental Feng Shui

ONE. Give people more than they expect and do it cheerfully.

TWO. Marry a man/woman you love to talk to. As you get older, their conversational skills will be as important as any other.

THREE. Don’t believe all you hear, spend all you have or sleep all you want.

FOUR. When you say, ‘I love you,’ mean it.

FIVE. When you say, ‘I’m sorry,’ look the person in the eye.

SIX. Be engaged at least six months before you get married.

SEVEN. Believe in love at first sight.

EIGHT. Never laugh at anyone’s dreams. People who don’t have dreams don’t have much.

NINE. Love deeply and passionately. You might get hurt but it’s the only way to live life completely.

TEN. In disagreements, fight fairly. No name calling.

ELEVEN. Don’t judge people by their relatives.

TWELVE. Talk slowly but think quickly.

THIRTEEN! . . . When someone asks you a question you don’t want to answer, smile and ask, ‘Why do you want to know?’

FOURTEEN. Remember that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

FIFTEEN. Say ‘bless you’ when you hear someone sneeze.

SIXTEEN. . When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

SEVENTEEN. Remember the three R’s: Respect for self; Respect for others; and Responsibility for all your actions.

EIGHTEEN. Don’t let a little dispute injure a great friendship.

NINETEEN. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

TWENTY. Smile when picking up the phone. The caller will hear it in your voice.

TWENTY ONE. Spend some time alone.

A true friend is someone who reaches for your hand and touches your heart

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Chart from HERE

Many of you don’t know, but I was married on May 22, 1999.  Today would have been my 11 year wedding anniversary.  A friend and I often talk about divorce rates.  Our parents are both still married and it’s the first marriage for all of them.  We think part of the reason was, back in the 50’s & 60’s divorce was very taboo and airing your dirty laundry was frowned upon.  Couples worked through problems.  Today it is so acceptable, most people don’t even attempt to save a marriage that’s in trouble.  In my eyes, many things are worth working on, and certain things are unforgivable.  It’s a fine line for many.

Does anyone have any theories why divorce rates shot through the roof in the 70’s?
I’m sure the statistics and reasons are online somewhere but I’m too tired to look!!

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This blog was inspired by my friend and local sex symbol Kevin Marshall’s blog “In The Present Tense.”  There are many things that I hate that other people seem to love.  Some of them I will probably never understand.

Napoleon Dynamite ~ 2004

Napoleon Dynamite has got to be one of the stupidest movies I’ve ever seen.  Can I please have my 82 minutes back that this movie robbed from my life?

Beer

Beer just doesn’t taste good to me.  I don’t know why.  I’ve tried it over and over.  I’ve tried many different kinds.  I just don’t seem to have a taste for it.  One exception would be Lindeman’s Framboise.   Though technically it is a beer (I think – my beer buddies can chime in) it doesn’t taste like traditional beer.  I call it “alcoholic soda.”

The Biggest Loser

I’m not a big fan of most reality TV shows.  I’ll admit, I’ve never watched The Biggest Loser.  Sitting around watching overweight people lose weight is not my idea of entertainment.  I watch TV for entertainment and information.  This doesn’t fall into either of those categories for me.

Paradise By The Dashboard Light

Now, I do NOT hate Meat Loaf, however, I do hate the song Paradise By The Dashboard Light that he recorded.  The song is long, the song is annoying, and I’ve heard it far too many times for this lifetime.

The Rockey Horror Picture Show ~ 1975

I don’t like The Rocky Horror Picture Show.  Maybe humor was much different before I was born?

The Bachelor

The Bachelorette

As I already mentioned I am not a fan of reality TV shows.   The Bachelor and The Bachelorette are both horrible.  First off – from what I understand – the people on the show sign a contract that if they’re the final girl/guy at the end they will marry the Bachelor/Bachelorette.  What if they like the person, but they’re really not “the one?”  This set-up makes a mockery of marriage.  When you marry someone it’s supposed to be for life.  On these shows these people spend all their time trying to make themselves look better than the person next to them.  They’re not spending their time in a normal environment getting to know anyone.  I watched some of The Bachelor this season and it was just ridiculous!

Swiss Cheese

I don’t like Swiss cheese.  It’s bitter.  I think it kind of tastes like what I imagine wax tastes like.  YUCK!

Tequila

Tequila is another thing I hate.  If it tastes like vomit going down, what does it taste like when it comes back up?  I’m sure a commenter can tell us….

WWE

I can’t stand WWE, WWF, or whatever they’re calling wrestling these days.  Why should anyone waste their time watching a bunch of grown men on steroids taking cheap shots at each other?  This is NOT a sport.  It’s over-sized stunt men and women.

Ian Anderson of Jethro Tull

I’ve never been a fan of Ian Anderson or Jethro Tull.  I’ve seen Jethro Tull live and I wasn’t impressed.  He kind of reminded me of a little gnome dancing around the stage with his flute.  Can he play the flute?  Yes.  Can he sing?  No way!

Delurker Day is in January

I HATE HATE HATE when people lurk at blogs.  I understand if you feel you don’t have something substantial to contribute everyday.  But for the love of GOD I had hundreds of views to my blog yesterday and only 1 comment.  Seriously people, if you want to read blogs, participate once in a while!!  I ask a question at the end of almost every blog I write so you’ve got no excuse….

Today’s question:
Tell me what you hate that everyone else seems to love.
If you’ve got a few extra minutes tell me why you hate it.

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In yesterday’s blog I mentioned guilt.  So today let’s talk about regret.
Let’s start by defining the word regret:

Regret
Pronunciation: \ri-ˈgret\  Function: verb
Inflected Form(s): re·gret·ted; re·gret·ting
Etymology: Middle English regretten, from Anglo-French regreter, from re- + -greter (perhaps of Germanic origin; akin to Old Norse grāta to weep) 
Date: 14th century
transitive verb
1 a : to mourn the loss or death of b : to miss very much
2
: to be very sorry for s his mistakes>intransitive verb : to experience regret
re·gret·ter noun

To me regret is always a bad thing.  I think about regret from the perspective of the Space Time Continuum.  As it was presented in Back To The Future.  The basic concept of the Space Time Continuum is that all events in life lead to other events in life.  If one event in the past is changed for any reason, it could effect all future outcomes.  In the movie if Marty McFly’s parents didn’t go to The Enchantment Under The Sea dance and kiss, they wouldn’t get married and therefore Marty wouldn’t be born.  All events that would happen because of the kiss.

I’ve been asked numerous times throughout my lifetime if I regret certain things.  The answer is always No.

Do I regret getting married? Nope.  If I hadn’t gotten married I wouldn’t have moved to Upstate NY to hideout from my ex, and therefore I wouldn’t know the many great friends I have today.

Do I regret quitting my job to travel Europe? HELL No!  First off how many people at 24 can say they’ve been to 10 different countries?  Second off, if I hadn’t done that I probably wouldn’t have ended up moving to Pittsburgh after and wouldn’t know all my wonderful friends down there.  I haven’t kept in touch with many of them, but the few that I do are precious to me.  I count one of them as one of my closest friends!

Do I regret dating _______? (insert any name of one of my ex boyfriends) Nope.  They’re all ex boyfriends for a reason.  I learned something from every single one of them.  Even the bad stuff was good to go through to learn from.  The jerk that beat the crap out of me made me a stronger woman who would NEVER tolerate that crap in my life.  The jerk with the head on a swivel – I learned that I was so much better than him.  (He’s now married and I pity his wife)  I’ve learned that some men just can’t get out of their own way to be happy.  Then there was the good stuff.  The guy who taught me to make kick-ass pizza.  The guy who loved to watch movies that opened me up to some I would have never picked up to watch.  The guy who loved to travel.  The guys who loved riding motorcycles.  I learned from them all 🙂

Do I regret taking that last job that totally screwed me over? I’m still trying to learn from that one….  I’ve learned to be more frugal, that’s for sure….

So I ask you all this.  What do people think you’d regret in your life and why don’t you regret it?

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