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Meet Katie 🙂

While brainstorming about what to write blogs about, I wanted to find a way for my readers to get to know some of the awesome people who I know.  The best way I could come up with was an interview series.

Meet my friend KatieKatie and I met randomly on MySpace.  If I recall she was looking to meet another couple around the same age as her and her husband and we fit the bill.  Eventually we met face to face and we’ve really hit it off.     So… without further ado – get to know Katie.

Name: Katie Smith McKay

Age: 31

Location: Watervliet, NY

Hails from: Latham, NY

Relationship Status: Married

Twitter: Katieny79

Children: None not sure I want any

Occupation: Relationship Banker at First Niagara Bank currently, also Pampered Chef Consultant, and aspiring to be a Wedding Planner

What is the most challenging part of your job?
Day job – I’m not happy at and I hate the phone, feel like a glorified telemarketer sometimes.  
Pampered Chef– Keeping bookings consistent and avoiding cancellations – though that is improving as of late….

How long have you been a Pampered Chef Consultant? 2-1/2 years. www.pamperedchef.biz/katiezdreamz

Are you having any good sales right now? May is a great month to host.  May is Help Whip Cancer month purchase exclusive pink products to benefit the American Cancer Society

Jeff & Katie

How did you and your husband Jeff meet? Jeff and I met when I was 20 and he was 25 through a mutual friend.

What did you and your husband Jeff do on your first date? We went to see a movie The Bone Collector I think that was it, we met at theater after he got out of work on a Friday night. We didn’t do much “dating” as in going out mostly just hung out and talked and hung out with friends very casual dating atmosphere in the beginning I guess.

What have you always wanted to do but were too afraid to try? That’s a really good question and I feel like I should have an answer but I really don’t. I could say starting my own business but I’ve decided to work toward that plunge so I guess I lost my fear in some ways. The best I can come up with is maybe sing in public sober and non-karaoke.

What’s your favorite comfort food? Hmmm that’s hard……. I enjoy food so to pick a favorite comfort food……….. I guess I’ll be boring and say pepperoni pizza or if I’m sick Chicken Noodle Soup.

Would you go back in time if given the chance? Yes

What would you do? If I could go back 10 years ago, I’d know that wedding planning is my true passion and could have started pursuing that then.

The Fresh Prince of Bel Air

What were your favorite TV shows when you were a kid? Full House & Fresh Prince of Bel Air I guess

Now? Too many I watch way too much TV. But currently probably Survivor, Parenthood and Modern Family oh and How I Met Your Mother.

What do you like to spend money on? Wish I had money to spend on things I liked to spend it on. Mostly just goes to bills and necessities.

What is your favorite board game? I  LOVE board games so I really can’t pick a favorite, but I guess if I absolutely had to pick one I’d say Cranium.

Chewy

What is your favorite way to relax? Reading

What’s your biggest pet peeve? Socks and sandals

You and I met on MySpace.  Are you surprised we hit it off as well as we have? Honestly yes I am but I’m glad!:)

You’ve just closed on 1st home.  What part of home-ownership are you most looking forward to? All of it!  I can’t wait to pay towards an investment instead of rent to landlords that don’t even care about their property. Being able to do whatever I want, paint tack knock down walls. Having space and freedom.

What other questions do you have for Katie?
Ask away!

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While brainstorming about what to write blogs about, I wanted to find a way for my readers to get to know some of the awesome people who I know.  The best way I could come up with was an interview series.

This week’s interviews all have a military connection.  Meet my friend SaraSara and I met on MySpace through our friend KimSara is an army wife.  She got to know my good friend Lisa who was featured in yesterday’s blog when she moved from Yakima, WA to Ft. Hood, TX.

Sara and her hubby Mark

Name: Sara Caraway Kowalski

Blog link: http://armywife1208.wordpress.com/

Age: 34…almost old enough to be offended by giving out my real age! lol

Location: Fort Hood, Texas

Sara & Mark ~ December 27, 2008

Relationship Status: Married since December 27, 2008

Occupation: Mother and Army Wife Extraordinaire

Caitlin, Celsie and Cyler

What is the most challenging part of your job?
Dealing with children who rarely listen and putting up with the frustrations that come along with the Army life. I’m a married single mom, that is the easiest way to put it!

Last picture saying goodbye to Mark


You’re new to the Army Wife world. What are the biggest difference between being a civilian wife and an Army Wife?

Well first and foremost the Army comes first and everything else comes second. It is something that I am still trying to get used to. As a civilian you only spend time away from your spouse because one of you needs or wants time away with the Army separations are part of the job description. I find that I have distanced myself more from friends and family back home because they don’t understand exactly what I’m going through. Unless you actually are a military spouse you will never truly understand what one is going through.

What is the best part of being a military spouse?
Friends who become family very quickly. I feel closer to my friends that I have made here than some of those who I have been friends with for years. The extreme pride I feel for my husband when he puts on his uniform each morning.

The kids saying goodbye to Mark

Your husband is currently deployed in Afghanistan, and he’s been gone for about a month.  How are you coping?
Mark has been gone for a little over a month, although it feels a lot longer. I was a wreck when he first left but I am starting to get a routine down which make things a little better. I seem to have thrown myself into my kids and working on the house more than I have since we have been here. I don’t want my kids to feel like their mother can’t cope just because their dad/step-dad isn’t around.

How are your children handling it?
They really seemed to struggle at first. They were asking on a daily basis when he was coming home and now that he has been gone for a bit they have eased up on that. Although my 6-year-old still tells everyone she meets that her daddy is in Afghanistan killing the bad guys. It isn’t exactly what I want her telling people but she knows her daddy and his friends are making it possible for her to go bed at night and sleep safely.

What are the toughest times not having your husband home?
I think it is hardest when something needs done around the house that he would normally take care of. The front porch light burnt out two days after he left and I just cried. It sounds silly because it’s just a light but it caused my first mini-breakdown. The nights are hard too because we normally hangout watching movies and things after the kids go to bed and now there is just me here. I also hate sleeping alone and even when one of my kids crawl in bed with me it just isn’t the same.

Do you find yourself glued to the news stations?
Actually I promised Mark that I wouldn’t do this just for my own sanity. I watched CNN for a few hours one day and found that I could learn more accurate info by just talking to my hubby.

The family

Do you have a huge homecoming planned for him?
I don’t have anything set in stone for his homecoming. I know that I am hiring the photographer who took our family pictures to photograph the homecoming but that’s all I have for now. I would rather do something small and simple with just us and the kids rather than something huge.

I think this picture is soooo cute!!

What advice do you have for a new military spouse?
Don’t get mad at your spouse for things they can’t control. Your plans will always get screwed up by CQ, Staff Duty, or late nights for no reason. Learn to be laid back and to go with the flow, you will be much less stressed. Nothing in the Army makes sense, they sooner you accept this the better off you will be. Febreze does NOT cover up the Army smell…you will eventually learn to like it, you’ll even miss it when/if your spouse deploys.

What got you interested in blogging?
I accidentally clicked on the most popular blogs on Myspace one day a few years ago and one of them caught my eye. I read it and I was hooked on reading them. I eventually started my own just to get things of my chest. I did it mainly for my friends and family. I started to get more and more readers that I didn’t know which made want to write more for some reason. I quit for a while because of getting married and moving, I’m slowly making some sort of comeback.

Do you feel that there are perks to having so many years between your youngest and oldest child?
It has it positives and it’s negatives. They aren’t very close because of the 10 year difference but since they are so spread out I can enjoy different things with each of them. I can play with my son, watch cartoons, and just be silly and with my oldest I have someone to hangout with or someone to go do things with. I can take her shopping or to the movies and not have to seem something rated “G”. Also with the huge gap I always have a sitter if I need it! lol

Sara & Lisa

Lisa & Sara ~ I just thought this was such a cute picture!!

Tell me when you’re going to come visit NY with Lisa….
Oh I wish we could. I have never been to New York and would love to at least say I have been there. Sadly the Army doesn’t pay too well so I just can’t afford it right now. So when are you coming to Texas to visit us? You only have a limited time ya know, she is moving soon!:(

You got to have a video conference with your husband this week. What was it like? How did it go?
Do you feel like seeing him helped you miss him less? What were your feelings after?
It was amazing and depressing at the same time. We only were allowed five minutes each because there were so many soldiers who signed up. It went well and I didn’t cry like I thought I would…well at least were he saw (I waited until we were done). I think it made me miss him more because I was wanted to feel him so bad and yet I couldn’t.

You lived at Ft. Hood during the shootings here earlier this year. What was it like that day? What were you doing when you heard about it? How have things there changed since then??
I was working that day and got a text message from my husband saying there was a shooting and the next thing I knew he was texting me saying all of Fort Hood was on lock down. All I could do was watch CNN to see what was going on because all of the phone lines were busy. I finally made it home to an empty house because my girls were locked in their schools, the neighbor had my son and they were locked in the school as well. I sat on my couch glued to the tv and basically just answered phone call after phone call from people back home making sure we were all ok.  All of my family was separated in different locations around post, which was the worst feeling because when something major is going on you want your family with you.  When the finally opened Hood back up it was close to 9pm at night, my poor babies had been at school all day. I had a lot of questions to answer from my kids and had to deal with the fears that something or someone would come hurt them. My husband’s company had 11 wounded and 4 killed that day. So there is a constant reminder of that day when I’m at the company. My husband was actually supposed to be at the SRP building that day and was fortunate enough to need some medical and dental work done before they could stamp him as deployable.  I never though that a bad back and a cavity could be such a blessing.

Happily Ever After....

Do you have any questions for Sara?
Ask away, she’s got lots of time while she waits for her hero Mark to come home….

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I’m going to start out by saying that none of what you are about to read is about anyone that you know online or anyone you’ve met or anyone I’ve talked about, so don’t start speculating that you know this person.  I can guarantee that you don’t.  Literally about 5 people I know have met this person and they don’t read my blog so…  moving on.

I have a very close friend who is in a relationship.  He met a girl about 6 months ago.  He liked her and they kept in touch.  He went to see her roughly once a month and then at the beginning of January they decided to step things up and see each other more often and see if they could turn things into more than what they previously were.  One important thing I’ve left out is that she lives 3 hours away from him.  (He just moved last weekend – prior to his move it was 8 hours)

I would like to see your honest opinions of what you’d do in his situation.  What questions would you ask?  Would you run?  Would you stay and sort it out?  What would you do? What advice do you have for him?

Buckle up, put on your crash helmet and hang on.  Here we go….

He met her one night while traveling in a bar at a hotel he was staying in.  They got chatting for hours and at the end of the night she gave him her number.  He thought she was cute and the conversation was good so he kept in touch with her.  The girl is married with two young children.  She is estranged from her husband, but they’re not divorced.  He’s moved out of the house, but I’m not sure when that happened.

My friend has been the one to drive back and forth to see her.  He’s been the one who always seems to be going out of his way for her.  (Each visit costs him $200 between his hotel room for the night and gas)  She understandably can’t just up and leave to see him for the weekend because of her children.  I wonder if this will always be the way.  Even after she’s divorced will she be able to take the children out of the county where her and her husband lived?  Divorce laws vary by county in the state she lives in.  And they do NOT recognize legal separations.  They’ve been keeping their relationship behind closed doors until she speaks with an attorney (this week) to find out the consequences if her husband does find out she has a boyfriend.  The way I see it, since her state doesn’t recognize legal separations, it would probably be viewed as adultery.  Could this possibly jeopardize her custody situation?  I’m not sure.  While we’re on the issue of her kids, how easy is it going to be for my friend to raise someone else’s kids?  Will her ex-husband make it a living hell for him?  My friend obviously can’t even meet these kids to see what they’re like.  (Don’t get me wrong, I totally understand this, it’s not healthy for kids to meet everyone their Mom or Dad dates until it’s serious)

She seems to communicate with him most often by text messaging.  Picking up the phone and calling him seems to be a foreign concept for her.  He’ll send her a text at 7AM and he might hear back from her by 2 in the afternoon if he’s lucky.  She’ll ask him to text her when he gets home after work so she can call him.  He’ll send the text at 7:15PM and not hear back from her.  She’s used the excuse over and over again that she fell asleep with her kids.  That excuse is getting really old and tired….  This is the first month the two of them have been dating more seriously and she doesn’t seem to care about communicating with him.  When she DOES communicate it’s always sweet, nice and flattering, it’s just getting her TO communicate that’s the problem.  She’s asked him to let her know when he’s home from work so she can call, he’s passed up dinners to wait for her call that never comes.  He really likes her and didn’t mind sacrificing some time with his buddies for her, but he DOES mind it when she couldn’t be bothered to call.  She paints a really pretty picture with her words and flattery, but she doesn’t seem to back it up with actions.  You know the old adage “Actions speak louder than words.”  My friend is willing to drop everything and pick up that phone and make time for her whenever.  Again, he’s going out of his way for her.  But it’s getting to the point that he feels like he’s 10th or 12th on her list.  I understand that her children are first, as they should be, but he should be right up there at the top with them.  He doesn’t feel like he’s important to her because she’s not showing it….  He talked to her a few weeks ago that she needed to step up her communication skills and this is how it’s been since then.
Is she just playing head games with him?
Does she want to be chased?
Is that why her communications skills SUCK??
She seems to have a lot of time that’s unaccounted for.
What’s she doing that she can’t call or text him?

My friend mentioned to her at one point that he wanted to join the rest of the world and go out and get a laptop.  He works with computers all day long so the last thing he wants to do when he gets home is play around on the computer.  He’s been thinking about it though.  When he told her this her response was “What, are you going to go and get a Facebook account too?” (and she wasn’t saying it in a joking way)  She said that she likes that he’s not online.  (I’m not sure if she’s worry he’ll cheat on her, catch her online, or be hit on by other women??)  She did tell him that she has a MySpace that she rarely uses.  What she failed to mention is that she does have a Facebook with a decent number of friends.  We don’t know if she goes on it often, but isn’t it kind of hypocritical?  I’m not saying she has a ton of friends – in fact she’s got nothing compared to me, but the point is it’s pretty shitty to make it clear she doesn’t want him on there when she is.

Every time they’ve met up since the night they met, they’ve met at a hotel in the town where she lives.  They hang out there and don’t go out in public because they don’t want to run into her ex or someone that could tell him.  So one weekend he went with her to a football game out of town.  It’s the first time they were ever really in public together.  She spent pretty much the whole game flirting and heckling a guy who was sitting in front of her.  She ignored my friend.  He almost walked out of the stadium and went home.  When he finally confronted her about it, she didn’t understand why he was upset.  That would have been a deal killer for me.  Disrespect is a HUGE deal killer for me.  For my friend it usually is too.  This girl played it off that she didn’t think it was a big deal.  The guy she was talking to was cheering for the other team and she was having fun.  If it was me and I hadn’t seen my boyfriend in weeks, I would have spent the whole time talking to him because I hadn’t seen him in a couple weeks.  But that would be me….I wonder how she’ll behave in public next time they go somewhere? I hope she learns from last time….

He made a comment on one visit that she could be cheating on him and he wouldn’t even know it because he lives so far away from her.  Her response was “When would I have the time?”  That sounded like a very evasive answer to me.  My response would have been something like “I have you, I don’t want anyone else, and you’re the guy for me and the only one I want.”

A big concern that my friend has is that from what he sees this girl has never had an example of a healthy relationship in her life.  Her Father left when she was young and her parents divorced.  Her Mom remarried and got divorced again.  She’ll even admit that she knew she was making a mistake the day she got married and referred to her marriage as “lust at first sight.”  She’s never had a healthy relationship to model herself after….  This girl is 35 years old and loves to watch The Real World and Jersey Shore.  Isn’t it time to get interested in something a little less juvenile?  I have friends who watched Jersey Shore and asked if they can have that hour of their life back.  My friends concern is that the more you watch crap like that on TV you get desensitized.  You start to think that cheating and treating people like crap is ok and it’s a way of life.  When he brought this up to her she told him to watch Sex In The City if he wanted to understand women.  Seriously? I think a comment like that is the kiss of death for this girl.  My friend is an old fashioned kind of guy.  He’s got manners, morals, and values.  He doesn’t treat women like objects.  Is this guy watches that show, he’s going to think all girls are like Samantha who’s out getting laid with a different guy every night of the week.  That is not what this guy wants to see.  He doesn’t need to see Carrie go out with one guy and go to a bar and make out with another guy.  Saying women are like what you see on Sex In The City is not the way to get to this guys heart.  (And for the record I LOVE SITC, but I’d never tell a guy that’s what all women are like and what all women want!)

This girl is good to him face to face.  She can carry on a great conversation when they’re together and she’s got his attention.  Something about her made him notice her.  The problem for her is that his attention is waning….  He went to see her last week and was going to lay a lot of these issues he has with her out on the table among others (YES there are OTHER issues on top of all these) but when he got there she had cooked him a nice dinner and brought it to the hotel, so he felt bad about coming into that with an ambush and didn’t bring it up.  He also didn’t want to stress her out a couple days before she’s going to talk to an attorney because he realizes that talking to an attorney will be stressful enough.  He cares about this girl quite a bit, he says they do have some stuff in common, but I feel like she just doesn’t know a thing about him.  If she did she wouldn’t be behaving the way she is.

My friend is honestly one of the sweetest, nicest guys on God’s green Earth, but he’s the rebound guy.  (She says she hasn’t dated anyone since her husband)  He’s a great guy, he isn’t controlling, he thinks that both parties in a relationship should be making decisions together, but she seems to be wearing the pants and controlling where this relationship is going at the moment and in my friends words “No cat will ever walk this dog.”

As I’ve talked to him I’ve come up with tons of unanswered questions.  Obviously my first one is security.  My friend makes good money, has a house, nice car, a few expensive toys on the side…  Could she just be looking for a soft place to land?  A sugar Daddy to take care of her and her kids?  Or does she really care about him because he’s a great guy and how he makes her feel?  My friend puts his girl up on a pedestal.  Since he started noticing all this stuff he’s knocked her down a bit, but he still treats her wonderfully through it all.  He doesn’t want to become a doormat though.

Another concern is if he sticks it out with her somehow and then she gets her divorce will she leave him in the dust and ride off into the sunset with some other guy now that she’s free of her marriage??  Having been through a divorce myself I’ve explained to my friend that she will be a different woman after all is said and done.  I know I went in one way and came out the other side much harder, less trusting, annoyed much easier….

I worry quite a bit about my friend.  (Hence this being the longest blog I’ve ever written) There are questions sprinkled throughout this whole situation.  I worry that if he breaks up with her though without getting some sort of closure will he forever wonder what would have happened if he stayed?

What are your honest opinions of what you’d do in his situation?
What questions would you ask?
Would you run?
Would you stay and sort it out?
What would you do?
What advice do you have for him?

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Last year I read a blog that mentioned the blogger’s favorite websites.  I figured why hoard them when I can share them with you!  Here’s a compilation of some of my favorites.  Over time I hope to add to it.  I want to know what some of your favorite websites are too!  Comment away!!

Facebook
If you don’t know what Facebook is I’m guessing you live under a rock and don’t have a computer.  If that’s the case, you’re not reading this….   Have I lost it?  I’m talking to an invisible person….
While you’re over there check out the new page I made Rose’s Recipe Group.  Moving on >>>

MySpace
You won’t find me there quite so often, but I still visit on occasion to check out the blogs.  KTPP, Namaste Theorist, The Dish From The Spoon and The Carcass Cadaver are some of my favorites 🙂

Twitter
Now I’ll start explaining the sites better.  Twitter is basically a status update about what you’re up to.  What are you reading, what are you watching, who’s annoying you at work, what you’re making for dinner – basically anything you want to tell your followers.  The catch?  You only have 140 characters to get your point across.
Some of my favorite people to follow are:
Albany-ish: Michael Henry, Kristi Gustafson, Andrew BaderaEllie, Jerry, Dom, Emily, Albany Kelly, Cute Ella, Swilly, John Jordan, Cassie Cramer, Terri Rossi Albany/Saratoga Realtor, Tweet Up Albany This is our local Tweetup Group!!, Marcus Molinaro – NYS Assemblyman I went to high school with, Meg Sharp, Bill Swallow
Non Local Cool Peeps: Lone Pine Photo Great Photographer in GA, St. Simon’s Elopments If you want a beautiful place to get married, contact Miss. Carla, Shit My Dad Says HILARIOUS!!, In Tune Guitar Picks Michael’s cousin & her husband manufacture guitar picks – cool huh?, Chris Cactus – great blogger
Celebrities: Megan Ward Kate from General Hospital, Scott Reeves Steven Webber on General Hospital, Logan Neitzel runner up on Project Runway, Carol Hannah Whitfield runner up on Project Runway, Alyssa Milano from Who’s the Boss?  and Charmed, Katey Segal from Son’s of Anarchy – AKA Peg Bundy from Married with Children, Carolyn Hennesey Diane from General Hospital – Also on CougarTown, Sutter Ink Creator of Son’s of Anarchy, Sarah Joy Brown was Claudia on General Hospital, Nancy Lee Grahn Alexis on General Hospital, Derk Cheetwood Max on General Hospital, Nia Vardalos from My Big Fat Greek Wedding, Peter Facinelli Carlisle Cullen from the Twilight series – Also was on Fast Lane

WordPress
Obviously I spend time here everyday.  So read my blog, subscribe to my blog, comment on my blog….  And while you’re over there check out Michael’s blog The World Through My Lens, Courtney’s Blog Cute~Ella is Bold, and Cassie’s Blog No Day But Today.  There is one other blogger that really amuses me.  Check out Rude Cactus.

Goodreads
I like to read, though I don’t do it as much as I’d like.  Once I discovered this site it became a place to keep track of what I’ve read, what I’m reading, and what I want to read.  Check it out.  I enjoying seeing what books my friends like and don’t like.  I won’t waste my time on a book my friends hated….

Paperback Swap
I don’t know about you, but I hate spending so much money on books.  Paperback Swap is an online community book exchange.  You pay to ship people your books, they pay to ship their books to you.  You earn credits for every book you’ve mailed and can use those credits to request other books.  The only criteria I’ve learned to ask on this site is if the book is from a smoke free environment.

Meetup
Meetup is a great site to get to know people with similar interests.  Awesome for someone who has moved to a new city and/or wants to make friends.  You can join groups all over the country.  If you’re in the Capital Region some of my favorite groups are No Destination which is a motorcycle group, The Capital Region Photography Meetup Group which is Michael’s photography group, and Fun, Fearless Females which is a woman’s group.

Pandora Radio
Panora is a great online radio site.  Basically you search for an artist you like and it will play you music from that artist and other artists they think are similar that you may like also.  It’s a nice way to get introduced to new music.

IMDB: Internet Movie Database
This site is great to research movies, or search for movies based on an actor or actress you like.

Wikipedia
You can research almost anyone or anything on this website.  It isn’t always 100% accurate because content can be updated and changed by the public.  Usually it’s pretty good though for a fast answer.

LaDorkas – National Multiple Sclerosis Walk
These women are incredible and walking for a good cause.
Please donate whatever you can.  They have a hefty goal.
Every dollar gets them closer to a cure for MS.

Brooks BBQ
If you live in NY, then there’s a good chance you’ve heard of Brooks House of BBQ.  They come to many churches and schools in Upstate, NY for fundraisers.  That’s how we discovered them.  We eventually visited their restaurant in Oneonta, NY and we enjoyed it quite a bit.  On their website at the bottom you can click on BBQ Events to view their catering calendar.

Other sites I enjoy for shopping
:
Adagio Teas – Loose tea and teapots, etc.
Deals Plus+ – coupons and deals to over 15,000 stores you like to shop at – Best Buy, JoAnn’s, Michael’s, etc.
eBay – online auction site
Half – online bookstore – powered by eBay
New York & Co. – Women’s clothing
Pandora Jewelry – Charm Bracelets
Teavana – Loose tea and teapots, etc.

What are some of your favorite websites to visit?
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