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While brainstorming about what to write blogs about, I wanted to find a way for my readers to get to know some of the awesome people who I know.  The best way I could come up with was an interview series.

Meet my friend Jessica.  I’ve known Jessica since we were in high school.  We lost touch after graduation, but we were able to reconnect on Facebook last year.  So without further ado – get to know Jessica.

Jessica Traver

Name: Jessica Traver

Age: 30

Location: Staatsburg, NY

Hails from: Red Hook, NY

Jessica & Gary on their wedding day ~ February 14, 2004

Relationship Status: Married

Children: Giselle 4 years old

Occupation: Stay at Home Mom

What is the most challenging part of your job? trying to keep a 4 year old from not being bored

We’ve known each other since high school.  How do you think you’ve changed since then? Well I am not the wild child I once was, becoming a mother has mellowed me

You’re a stay-at-home Mom.  How do you think this will impact your daughter? I think being home with her shows her a surplus amount of love and support and will give us a greater bond.

The Traver Family

What do you think is the biggest challenge of being a stay-at-home? Wondering if my parenting skills are up to par, and hoping that I will instill the best in my daughter. There is no one to pat you on the back, since I feel most husbands feel its not a job.

Giselle ~ October 2009

Your daughter Giselle just turned 4.  How do you feel about her growing up and going to school next year? Giselle- Its going to be hard to let her leave the nest, but since she is enrolled in pre school now, I think that will ease my pain. I feel that she is developing a great head on her shoulders, she knows whats right and wrong. I feel she will become even more independent, and I feel that will be great as I do not want her to rely on Mommy and Daddy for everything.

Do you have plans to have another baby? yes one day

What’s guaranteed to make you laugh? Well hands down my brother and my husband. They are always guaranteed to have some story about work or what has happened in their daily lives. Bad luck follows them I guess

Maurice Benard as Sonny Corinthos on General Hospital

I know you watch General Hospital.  Who is your favorite character and why? Sonny– hes rugged and tough but yet he loves his family to death

Are you on Twitter? Yes

What’s your favorite meal to cook? Stuffed Shells

Are you happy that you still live near where we grew up or do you wish you lived in a bigger city? No I am content. I think living in the country is great when you have kids.

What is your favorite vacation destination? Florida since I lived there for 2 years

What is your favorite book? The Notebook

Tell me an interesting fact about yourself: I am OCD

What other questions do you have for Jessica?
Ask away?

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The Weekly Re-cap: You met my friend Katie and mourned my good friend common sense.  You heard about the parents sitting near me on the flight to Florida and we talked about being proud of our true age….

The Weekly Music: Kelly has some Sara Evans on  her iPod and I liked her….

The Weekly Downer: Leaving Michael and Isabella.  Being in beautiful warm weather without a motorcycle….

The Weekly New Show on TV That I Like: Romantically Challenged with Alyssa Milano (my birthday buddy!)

The Weekly Schadenfreude: The guy who set the bomb in Times Square.  Good thing he’s bad at building bombs (sigh of relief)

The Weekly Beverage: orange juice at the airport, yummy iced drinks in the sun….


Weekly Food: Burgers with sautéed mushrooms & Claussen hearty garlic stackers, McGriddle

The Weekly Amazing Fact: Each year DOGS kill more people in the US than Great White sharks have in the past 100 YEARS!


The Weekly Birthdays: Lyn Reilly Clements, Shane Allen, Kim Boresch, Dave Trombetti, Christine Reilly Shelton, Heather Rook, Mary Onufer, Megan Boyd, Steven Plac, and Peter Klein.  I hope you all had wonderful birthdays filled with fond memories with family and friends.  Leave me a comment and tell me if you did anything special for your birthday.

The Weekly Craft:I’m still crocheting….

The Weekly Activity: Traveling

The Weekly Shoes: Flip Flops Galore!

Weekly Grand Totals: Time from Albany to Tampa – 3 hours 10 minutes

The Weekly Hypothetical: If you were married with kids and went on vacation (without your kids) would you be in bed early because that’s your routine, or would you be excited to stay up late because you don’t have a schedule?

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The kids are in control!!

So yesterday I was on a Southwest flight.  We boarded the plane.  I sat down, and buckled up.  The plane was only about 1/3 full so I didn’t have anyone sitting next to me.  Their was a woman sitting across the aisle with her 2 daughters.  Her husband was sitting in the row across the aisle in front of me.  She says to her daughter “Tell your Daddy he needs a nice big stiff one.”  After the daughter (who was probably about 3 years old) told her Daddy he needed “a nice big stiff one” I sat there in wonderment.  First off, it’s 7AM, nobody NEEDS a drink at 7AM.  2nd off you’re teaching a very young child that drinking at 7AM is okay.  Then you’re teaching them to say a phrase that can be misconstrued and repeated to teacher, babysitter, grandparent….  Not good parenting if you ask me.

The kids were screamers too!  Not my idea of a good well-rounded child.  You’re movie is over.  Don’t scream at the top of your lungs.  Say “Mommy, my movie is over.”  I know people can’t control everything their children do.  But it was obvious these parents just let their kids do whatever they want and they respond to it by giving the kids whatever they want.  I didn’t see any parenting.  I see a kid in control!!

Oh well.  Glad they’re not my kids.  I’ll remember things like this in the future if I have some as a how-not-to situation.

What’s the worst child/parent situation you’ve ever had to deal with on a plane?

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(And for those of you that got the Kelly Cornick-Crouth interview list email last night.  Please disregard.  It will get posted, just not today.  Stay tuned!!)

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Here’s the link where I read the story….

The poor little boy who was sent back to Russia

Basically what happened was a woman in Tennessee adopted a boy from Russia on September 29th last year and decided that she didn’t want to raise him any longer because he had behavior problems.  She put some cookies and a coloring pen into his knapsack and put him on a plane back to Moscow, Russia.  The boy is 7 years old.  She hired a man for $200 to meet the plane in Moscow and to take the boy to The Russian Science and Education Ministry building.

An excerpt from the article:
The letter — addressed “to whom it may concern” at the Russian Ministry of Education in Moscow — said: “After giving my best to this child, I am sorry to say that for the sake of my family, friends and myself, I no longer wish to parent this child.

“As he is a Russian national, I am returning him to your guardianship and would like the adoption dis-annulled,” the letter said.

In the letter, Hansen accused officials at the Russian orphanage where the boy lived of not telling her the truth about him. “The child is mentally unstable,” she said. “I was lied to and misled by the Russian orphanage workers and director regarding his mental stability and other issues. The orphanage employees were definitely aware of the major problems that this child has. Yet they chose to grossly misrepresent those problems, in order to get him out of their orphanage.”

Since this has happened, Foreign Minister Sergey Lavrov wants to put a stop to any adoptions to American families until Russia and the United States sign an international agreement.  Honestly I don’t know how signing and agreement is going to change idiots like this little boys adoptive mother.

What makes me REALLY mad is that a spokesperson at the Bedford County TN Sheriff’s Department said “that while no charges have been filed against Hansen, an investigation is under way and she has agreed to meet with law enforcement officials next week.”  That to me is unbelievable!  In my opinion this sorry excuse for a mother should be arrested for child abandonment and her biological son (yes she has another child) should be placed with a family member because obviously she’s not a good parent.

If she didn’t want the child she adopted – FINE!  But there is a right way to deal with a situation like that, and a wrong way.  She went with the wrong way if you ask me.

Have you read about this or seen it in the news?  I know someone who was faced with a situation where she felt an adopted child was a detriment to another child of hers.  But I assure you that she didn’t just dump him off at an airport with some cookies!!!

If anyone sees additional information about this story I’d love to hear about it because I have friends who CAN’T have children and CAN’T afford to adopt and then you hear about morons like this woman….

Also, there is a video you might want to watch as well….

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Sorry I’m posting this up so late.  I’ve been letting Michael use my computer since his crashed and sharing isn’t so easy when it comes to my laptop….

Last night was the Times Union’s “Media 2010: How Blogs Shape The New Conversation” in the Touhey Forum in the Thelma P. Lally Building at The College of St. Rose in Albany, NY.  They had a panel of their top bloggers to speak and answer questions from the audience.   They had a video of some local bloggers who spoke briefly about what their blogs were about.  One I found amusing was the Parent to Parent blog.  Tracy Ormsbee said I’m here to give you parenting advice from an experienced standpoint and Jennifer Gish said something along the lines of “I’m kind of the parenting how not to, I’m the train wreck you can’t turn away from.”

They mentioned that the Times Union “readership” is split into thirds:

  • 1/3 of readers only read the paper
  • 1/3 of readers only read online
  • 1/3 of readers read blogs and the paper
  • The TU blogs have an average of about 1,300 comments  day
  • There are over 150 blogs on the Times Union site

There were many other statistics given, but I don’t remember them all.

The blogger Libby Post writes a blog about LGBT (lesbian, gay, bisexual, and trans-gender) issues.  I would guess that she has one of the most controversial blogs on the site.  She seemed to handle herself with confidence and reasonableness.  She spoke about how she approves 98% of the comments that come through the site.  The 2% that are denied are erroneous, make no sense, or they advocate violence.  I think that’s very fair on her part.  She’ll let comments through that disagree with her and that’s good for adult discussions if you ask me.  She did speak about people posting anonymous comments.  No blogger likes when people post anonymously.  She made the comment about “the cowardice of anonymity.”  I’m a big believer that if you’re not willing to put your name to a statement you’re going to make, then you probably shouldn’t be making the comment.  Michael spoke a little bit about it in his blog today as well….

I’m so glad that the Times Union sponsored this event and they had a great turn-out.  Below are some other people that were there, were mentioned, or weren’t there – but I like their local blogs.  I’m going to put them in alphabetical order so nobody thinks I’m showing preference.

Check out some of their blogs and let me know what you think.  Leave them comments and show them some love.  We all love blog visits, but we love comments even more.  🙂

Do you have a blog?  If I don’t read your blog, tell me your link so I can check it out.

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I think we all have things in life that drive us crazy!  Pet peeves we’d rather live without….
As I write this I thought about the Festivus tradition of

Airing of Grievances
The celebration of Festivus begins with the “Airing of Grievances,” which takes place immediately after the Festivus dinner has been served.  It consists of lashing out at others and the world about how one has been disappointed in the past year.

From the Seinfeld episode:

Frank Costanza: “And at the Festivus dinner, you gather your family around, and tell them all the ways they have disappointed you over the past year!”
Frank Costanza: “The tradition of Festivus begins with the Airing of Grievances. I got a lot of problems with you people! And now, you’re gonna hear about it. You, Kruger. My son tells me your company STINKS!”

I view grievances and gripes not only as ways I’ve been disappointed but also as things that have annoyed and pissed me off.  So here are a few of my gripes:

People who ride in the fast lane and don’t move out of the way.
Left Lane Drivers of America

People who have parties at their home but have no parking and you end up parking 4 blocks away.

People who start dating someone new and stop calling their friends.

Wait staff who are annoyed when they get a shitty tip when all they did was take my order?  (Which was screwed up by the way.)  Tips are earned, you’re lucky to have gotten one at all.

People who push their cart down the middle of the grocery aisle when they see you’re coming the other direction and STILL don’t move out of the way!

People who don’t hold the door for the person behind them.  If they’re within 3 steps that door should be held.  This is especially important if the person is on crutches, pushing a baby carriage, or pushing someone in a wheelchair.  Let’s show some courtesy!!

People who make strangers “the bad guy” — “You’d better stop crying or that mean lady over there will make you leave.”
Sorry lady, I’m not a “mean lady” but you ARE a bad parent.  Tell your kid to stop their tantrum because it’s not appropriate in public.  PERIOD.  Better yet, teach your kid that tantrums are unacceptable behavior in the first place.

People who leave their brats unsupervised.  – Watch your kids.  If you can’t handle it, hire a babysitter and leave them home.

People who let their kids run up to strange dogs to pet them, etc. – Most of you know that Michael & I have a small dog.  You wouldn’t believe how many parents just let their kids run up to us to pet her.  Just because she’s small doesn’t mean she won’t bite you.  Granted, our dog doesn’t bite, but a stranger doesn’t know that.  Parents should learn to ask permission before allowing their children to approach a strange dog big or small.  They should also teach them to touch the body of the dog as many dogs don’t like to be pet on the head by strangers.

People who leave their pets in parked cars in the hot or cold weather.  I can’t be held responsible for your poor dog parenting.  Don’t be shocked to find my ice tea poured through the sliver you left the window open (as if that helps) for your dog and it gets all over your light gray seats.  I won’t be feeling bad.  I’ve been known to call the police on your sorry ass.

Groups of people who walk  3-4 wide in the mall who won’t step aside when they see there are other people walking toward them.

People who spend 20 minutes in the ATM lane searching for their card and balancing their checkbook.  When I blow my horn at you do NOT flip me off.

Don’t pull my hair and ask me if it’s real.  WTF?  Seriously?
What if it wasn’t and you pulled off a wig?  What would you say then?

Ugh, I get stressed just thinking about these things.

Deep breath!

Now that I’ve got them off my chest, what are your grips?

** I got the idea for this blog from “Nobody Cares What You Had For Lunch” by Margaret Mason **

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