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To read about how this series started please read the 1st blog in this series.

#2 – Uncover The Joy of You

“You are the only one who can do exactly what God has planned for you.”

“Value what God has given you.  Creating home-cooked meals that are nutritious is a gift.  Balancing roles of teacher, worker, parent, grandparent, spouse, and friend is a gift.  Loving those around you is the ultimate gift.  You have talents and abilities that are uniquely yours.”

“Look at yourself in the mirror today without finding faults and flaws.  Recognize your uniqueness, and notice the difference when you smile.”

I hate when people tell me how I “should” act.  I hate the words “you should.”  Not to say the words have never passed my lips, but I’m now more aware when it happens.  I try my best to instead say things such as “Have you tried” or What about this idea” or “Have you thought of this?”  Nobody can live your life for you.  We all have choices in life and the outcome of our life can vary greatly based on the choices we make.

Lend A Helping Hand Picture from Rishi Menon http://www.flickr.com/photos/rxmflickr/4358918644/

I try to help people with the talents I have.  I’m hoping they find the joy of my talents helpful.  I have lots of friends who can’t cook (or can’t be bothered because they live alone and let’s face it, it’s not fun to cook for just one) so I try to cook for them.  Nothing says “I care” like a home-cooked meal.  I used to do this much more often when I had extra money around for food, lately though the disposable income is scarce….

I’m also an okay writer – so when a friend needed help writing their resume from scratch – I was able to help.

I try to be the best daughter, niece, sister, aunt, girlfriend, and friend that I can be.  I try to help people when I can because I’m a big believer in what goes around comes around.

A close friend who’s had a few major crisis’ in her life and I had a discussion about how you find out who your true friends that you can count on during major tragedies in your life.  She’s right!  Sometimes it’s as simple as being a friend to listen, other times it’s muscle needed to help with a big move….  I remember when I lived out-of-state who would take the time to meet me out for dinner when I was in town to visit and who couldn’t be bothered to drive across town to see me after I’d driven hours to get there.

I remember growing up that I was taught not to be mean and tease people.  If I didn’t like someone I tended to just keep to myself.  I didn’t want to play into the meanness, because gosh knows there was enough of that though-out the school years!  Kids can be cruel and I saw my fair share of it around me through the years.  I tried my best to be friends with the band geeks, nerds, artists, goth girls, jocks, cheerleaders, etc.  It really didn’t matter to me.  (Now I guess I’m getting back to what I talked about in the 1st blog in the series huh?)

What are the joys of you?
Do you use them to help people?

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As some of you know, I love to go to yard sales / tag sales / estate sales / rummage sales – whatever you want to call them.  This past Friday I picked up a book called 101 Ways to Find God’s Purpose For Your Life.  There were lots of good points in this book.  Now I don’t want to turn my blog into a religious blog.  Even though I am religious, I don’t push my thoughts and beliefs on others except to say that the 10 commandments all boil down to the “Golden Rule” – Do unto others as you’d have them do unto you.

Anywho – this book does make good points.

#1 – Discover Your Strengths

“Think back to when you were a child.  What were some of your favorite things to do?  Did you care for injured animals, love to draw pictures, or delight in playing with friends?  Now think of the ways those traits manifest themselves in your life today.  Do you still collect “strays” – animals or people?  Do you express yourself artistically through decorating and creating?  Do you love to fix broken things?  Do you enjoy opening your home to family and friends?”

This got me thinking.  I do tend to collect strays.  I have always been one of those people who tries to be friendly to everyone.  I’m the one who tries to find the wall-flower or shy person and draw them into the conversation.  Sometimes it is more of a challenge than others.  I do tend to be that kind of friend that will drop everything to help a friend who needs it.   I never noticed until recently that people who do this seem to be a rarity.  The older I get the more I look around and notice that so many people seem to be out for themselves and couldn’t give-a-crap about the person standing next to them.  Where did common decency go??  It makes me sad.

Recently I had a friend tell me I need to learn to be more of a self-centered-Bitch.  Can you believe it?  In no way am I a door-mat, but I give too much of myself and then I end up getting my feelings hurt by those people I gave to because they show their true colors and don’t care about anyone but themselves.  Apparently I don’t fit into the take-take-take society that’s appearing all around me….

I always considered it my strength that I could help people.  Lately it’s turning out to be more of a weakness, but I keep hoping that will change.  I do have some friends that do appreciate all that I have to offer with my friendship, but I’ve also learned that many take it for granted.  In times of crisis you learn who’s a friend to value and who’s the friend who’s all for themselves.

What strengths, gifts and talents do you have?
Do you use them to help people?

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