Hypothetically… you’re a guy in a one-sided relationship. You wonder if you’re your girlfriend’s “backup plan.” then you start to wonder if YOU should have a backup plan.
Have you ever been in this situation and if so, what is your definition of a “backup plan?”
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My backup plan was “Party Hard!” and I’m comfortable saying that I have been doing an awesome job with that so far!
You sure have been!!
What is the point of being in a relationship if you feel the need to have a back up plan? Or feel that you are one?
If you ask me it’s kinda immature & tit for tat. Cut the fat & move on; that’s my plan. Not to be there in the first place.
I hear ya. I think in some situations it’s just human nature to have that backup plan for “what if”
I kind of agree, cut the cord and move on. In my friend’s case he finally spoke with the girl and told her
that he can’t keep putting forth the effort he has been…. He’s not totally cutting the cord, but fraying it
so he can have a life!!
I have to second what Kristine wrote. What’s the point of being in a relationship if you need a back up plan? If there’s a problem, deal with it. If you feel like you’re in a one sided relationship, either talk to the other person about it or pack up and go (or both). If you feel like you’re someone’s back up plan, the same principle applies. You should never be someone’s second choice in a relationship.
A safety net is completely different. I always have my family and friends and they always have me. It’s where I know I can turn to when times are tough. A safety net isn’t a plan. It’s a support system for the good and bad.
I kind of have to agree. If you need back up plans you shouldn’t be in a committed relationship. My friend in the situation is having a tough time dealing with the problems in the relationship. He talks to the girl and she tells him what he wants to hear and then he finds out it’s all smoke. The relationship is totally one sided. He finally told her that she doesn’t give him enough and he needs to get on with his life. Doesn’t mean he’s totally leaving her, but he’s going to go out and have a life again and stop sitting home waiting for her to call….
I’m all about the family and friends safety net though. I think that’s kind of a given. It’s what human nature has us do.
Cute Ella wrote:
“Can’t comment on your blog from my phone, but my “back up plan” is always to be ok on my own. Another guy will ALWAYS come along. Always. It might not be what or who you think you want, but someone else will always be there to fill in the gaps between the ones you really want.”